November 25, 2019

We are very focused on 'mental health' in today's world. People are lonely. People feel disconnected. Many feel unsupported from within their own communities, especially grieving people. I felt more alone in the world than ever when my baby daughter died. The lonelines...

October 8, 2019

I've been thinking a lot about some recent client stories: a grieving mother urged by her family to "move on" after the death of her only child; a grieving sister admonished by a teacher for saying she "still has a sister" because her sister died four years ago; a grie...

June 24, 2019

One of the most common things I hear about grief is how lonely it feels. Just today, again, I received an email signed this way: "Alone. I'm all alone in my grief."

"Alone. I'm all alone in my grief."

There is, indeed, a quality to grief that feels lonely, at least some...

June 24, 2019

I don't use the word "triggered" in my work with traumatic grief for a number of reasons. 

I do often use the word "cued" because when we encounter others, words, settings, memories, or some other sensory experience that cause deeply disturbing feelings or strong reacti...

June 24, 2019

In honor of grieving dads, we offer these thoughts from bereaved dad of Corey and our client, David Van Hook. Thank you for sharing this David and Corey.

What is Selah Carefarm to me, as a father, as a grieving father?

My answer? Whatever I need it to be.

Who Am I?
No, I...

June 2, 2019

Drugs and alcohol lie. They promise a good time but pilfer simple joys.  

They promise solace for past anguishes but bankrupt the future. 

They promise comfort for unanswerable questions but they destroy any chance at real meaning. 

They promise happiness but leave any ch...

July 26, 2018

Credit Patrick Pleul/European Pressphoto Agency

Tomorrow, July 27, is the longest lunar eclipse, a blood moon, of the century. As humans have done for thousands of years, many are predicting that this is the end of the world. But for me, the end of the world is not July...

July 2, 2018

For 23 years, I’ve been counseling grieving families. I don’t know why I’m continually shocked by the lack of tenderness in the world toward too many grieving and broken hearts. A grieving mother recently shared that she was tearful when a friend called her one night....

June 16, 2018

Art by Hannah Lotz, sister of Tyler Lotz, always loved and always missed

There are different kinds of people with whom we come into contact with after someone we deeply love, like our child, dies.

Here's a history lesson: in the case of Mary Todd Lincoln (Abraham's wife)...

May 10, 2018

This is the day. Mother's Day. It is a day for all mothers, but mostly, Mother's Day was originally intended to honor a special group of mothers: grieving mothers. This is *our* day.

It is a day to recognize tall mothers, short mothers, dark-skinned mothers, fair-skinne...

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