I fell in love 20 days ago.
I fell in love 20 days ago. Hard love. With a baby goat. Those who know me aren't surprised by that. I gave up eating animals in 1972...
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Dr Jo
- Jan 20
- 1 min
Your Grief
Dear Grievers, There are those who do not know and who cannot know this deep pain. They are afraid of it. They may tell you to ‘move on’....
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Dr Jo
- Aug 1, 2020
- 2 min
My beloved friend, Grief
Dear Grieving One, Treat grief, welcome her as you would a cherished friend, one who keeps your secrets and stays up all night with you,...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 2 min
Post Pandemic Plea for Peace
The day, soon, will come when most will resume life as normal. They will eat their morning cereal and glance at headlines, they will...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 3 min
Worried About Mental Health? Then Take Care of Your Emotional Health.
We are very focused on 'mental health' in today's world. People are lonely. People feel disconnected. Many feel unsupported from within...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 3 min
The Hallowed Work of Grieving
I've been thinking a lot about some recent client stories: a grieving mother urged by her family to "move on" after the death of her only...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 3 min
Finding Other Grievers in the Loneliness of Grief
One of the most common things I hear about grief is how lonely it feels. Just today, again, I received an email signed this way: "Alone....
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 7 min
A Carefarm and a Bereaved Dad
In honor of grieving dads, we offer these thoughts from bereaved dad of Corey and our client, David Van Hook. Thank you for sharing this...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 2 min
July 27, 2018
Tomorrow, July 27, is the longest lunar eclipse, a blood moon, of the century. As humans have done for thousands of years, many are...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 2 min
Grievers aren't the problem: Others' fear is the problem
For 23 years, I’ve been counseling grieving families. I don’t know why I’m continually shocked by the lack of tenderness in the world...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 6 min
Grief Bullies
Art by Hannah Lotz, sister of Tyler Lotz, always loved and always missed There are different kinds of people with whom we come into...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 3 min
Mother's Day is for Grieving Mothers, too
This is the day. Mother's Day. It is a day for all mothers, but mostly, Mother's Day was originally intended to honor a special mother: a...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 5 min
There is Beauty in the Darkness: Now stop saying, "Love & light!"
Within light, there is darkness; but do not try to understand that darkness.Within darkness, there is light; but do not look for that...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 4 min
Otherizing vs. Oneness
I was raised by a Jehovah's Witness elder. My family converted from Catholicism when I was just three. Being a JW was all I ever knew....
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 3 min
Pray, sure. And stay, please.
Just yesterday, I had a memory flash from 1994. Neighbors who I’d never met came to my house after Cheyenne (my newborn daughter) died....
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 3 min
Where are you, please!
23 years ago tomorrow, in a cold, sterile hospital room, she died. I died. And I left her there with the white coated men who would turn...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 2 min
Soliciting Closure.
Last night, a grieving person shared that he’s being “pushed toward closure” by others. Another young man whose brother died more than...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 2 min
Feeling: Superpower!
We live in a world that sends us wrong minded messages: That we are entitled to "be happy" all the time and that we should rarely, if...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 2 min
Subatomic Connections to Our Dead
My heart shattered, broken into millions of pieces, The day you died. And because there was nothing else to do, I let those shattered...
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Dr Jo
- Jul 18, 2020
- 1 min
When Their Animals Die
"Why, why, why does this hurt so much?!" She begged me to help her understand why the death of her daughter's dog, two years later, was...
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